Spiritual love is not a sentimental cloying where our need is to possess. It isn't the chemistry of lust or pheromones that cause us to act on instinct. Spiritual love is a combination of the heart and mind, unselfishly acting on the behalf of another. I emphasize "unselfishly" here, because there is no room for a hidden agenda with spiritual love.
Spiritual love has as its primary intention, the well-being of that which it is directed towards. It is far less important what one receives from the love object, than what one is able to give. It is a more detached love, more objective than what we normally experience in our daily relationships. Although we can put plenty of "heart" into it, we lose nothing by giving it away. We needn't have the love returned, no one is under any obligation, etc.
So, why does this have such power? Perhaps it is because this is the purest form of energy we can project as spiritual beings. Being free from attachment or expectation, yet full of caring and compassion, there is a healing power inherent in it which is capable of deep transformation for both the sender and the recipient. Also, we are told that this is the creative energy which brought us into being from our Source. This is the functional nature of the Divine. It certainly makes sense, as this is the good stuff which can breathe new life into a soul who is going under for the last time. Are you beginning to see why building a long term relationship can benefit from the understanding of this concept?
The Greatest Saints, Masters and Teachers of our history are known primarily for their expression of this intangible, yet powerful quality. From their expression of Spiritual Love, sprang Miracles.
Recently, someone wrote to me and said that common sense told her that we could not bless others. I disagree. Through the power of this Golden Energy, we shower those around us with the most magnificent blessings the human spirit can imagine. This is the truest power there is. Blessing another is an acknowledgment of their ability to tap into this reservoir of Love and find it for themselves.
Long term relationships are built from understanding the true principals and power of this All Loving Energy.