Don’t take anything personally - Ruiz

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Don’t take anything personally - Ruiz
Sunday, July 27th, 2008
Excerpt from Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements”

The second agreement is “Don’t take anything personally”

Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because

of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their

own mind; they are in a completely different world from

the world we live in. when we take something personally,

we make the assumption that they know what is in our

world, and we try to impose our world on their world.

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others

insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What

they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are

according to the agreements they have in their own minds.

Their point of view comes from all the programming they

received during domestication.

Don’t take anything personally because by taking things

personally you set yourself up to suffer for nothing.

Humans are addicted to suffering at different levels and

to different degrees, and we support each other in

maintaining these addictions. Humans agree to help each

other suffer. If you have the need to be abused, you will

find it easy to be abused by others. Likewise, if you are

with people who need to suffer, something in you makes you

abuse them. It is as if they have a note on their back that

says, “Please kick me”. They are asking for justification for

their suffering. Their addiction to suffering is nothing but

an agreement that is reinforced every day.

As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you

won’t need to place your trust in what others do or say. You

will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices.

You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are

only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and

refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the

careless comments or actions of others.

If you keep this agreement, you can travel around the world

with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You

can say, “I love you”, without fear of being ridiculed or

rejected. You can ask for what you need. You can say yes, or

you can say no-whatever you choose- without guilt or self-

judgment. You can choose to follow your heart always.