Love That Actually Works

Neediness often pushes other people away. Love is not a fluctuating unstable emotion. Love is not greed, possession, owning, attachment, neediness, desire, infatuation, lust, craving, addiction, jealousy, anger, egotism, or control. That which is selfish can't be love because love is selfless.

Love is good intent.
Love is service.
Love is selfless.
Love is devotion.
Love is trust.
Love is respect.
Love is kindness.
Love is compassion.
Love is good will.
Love is forgiveness.
Love is acceptance.
Love is tolerance.
Love is neutrality.
Love is unconditional.
Love is non-selective.
Love is all-encompassing.
Love is pure.
Love is Divine.
Love is Eternal.

Love is a way of being. It's the full blown radical forgiveness and acceptance of absolutely everything, as it is right now in this very moment, always.

Love is an INFINITE resource. It cannot be exhausted or used up. The more you give, the more you are able to give. The more you love, the more you can, and everybody has to start with where they are right now.

Love should not be given because you expect something in return. It is done out of selflessness (the absence of self). It's not about getting. It's about giving with no thought of reward. Not even a "thank you" should be needed or expected because that's neediness. "It is more blessed to give than to receive." Love for the sake of loving.

Relationships "fail" because people are searching outwardly for happiness and love. We are meant to share and give the happiness and love that we ALREADY ARE, with others. In doing so, it grows constantly and continuously within the one who is giving and sharing it. Love is experienced by being it yourself. Love is experienced from within, which means the source of it is within, when it's chosen. We give and share the happiness and love that we are by simply BEING it, and when we choose to be it, it's automatically being shared with others. It doesn't require any "doing". Just be Love. In becoming a better person yourself (losing the selfish self), you will be helping all others in turn.

There is no longer a "special" individual to love when all is loved equally and unconditionally. Nobody and nothing is "special" when all is equal, and if all is equal then nobody is "more important" than anybody else. Real Love is all-encompassing. It's not selective, choosy, picky, fussy, judgemental, or discriminatory. Real Love, when unobstructed by false individual opinions, beliefs, perceptions, thought processes, and emotionalism is unconditional and non-selective, no matter what. No matter what. Hence the saying, "There is no such thing as a justified resentment."